Only after my father’s death did I truly understand grief

Through grief, we learn how deeply we loved

Marium Rizvi
3 min readSep 22, 2024
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Losing a parent is the toughest thing anyone can go through.

Until I experienced it myself, I didn’t know what grief meant. I have seen people mourning for their loved ones, but nothing prepared me for the day I lost my father.

It’s been 3 years since my father’s death, and it still feels hard to process the reality that he is not with me or I can’t talk to him, or hug him ever.

We are always in denial believing it won’t happen to us but when it does we finally understand the true meaning of it.

In the days before my father passed away, I felt many emotions – helplessness, sadness, and fear. His health was getting worse every day but I always had this hope that he would get better.

When he died, it felt like a shock – the unrealistic hope I had was shattered. I felt like he left me in the dark world alone.

I often acted as if the loss wasn’t affecting me yet I saw that loss gradually converting into grief every day. I was unable to express it but it changed me so much that I didn’t even realize that it was this grief that was…

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